I was watching Scrubs last night, and I got to pondering...

Now before you laugh, I have limited tv. So fuck you.
End of disclaimer.

I was watching Scrubs last night. Carla, who is in a relationship with Turk, leans forward to Elliot -- a cute blonde girl with mad issues, one of them being trust -- and says (roughly paraphrasing):

"Honey.. It's all about hiding your crazy, and faking your confidence."

She said this in response to Elliot's conflicting (and charmingly neurotic... I say "charmingly" because I see myself in her LOL) emotions on how to approach this guy that she really likes. She basically said that the best way to snag/keep a guy is to hide your crazy from them. Everyone is crazy on the inside, but nobody needs to see your neuroses.

Is this true? Do you agree?

I mean, isn't that the You that everyone else sees? What would make your significant other special, if they don't get to see the complete, honest you?

There are certain things that only come out to people you totally trust. A person who is thoroughly aware of what her insanities and insecurities are will naturally be afraid to show them. History has proven that once all that mess gets let out of the bag, the other person will leave -- which, unforunately, will do nothing but restart the cycle.

All that "real you" stuff leaks out whether you want it to or not, once the walls start to slide down. So... would we have to prop that wall up with all our strength for the rest of our lives?

Are we to keep that "crazy" part a secret from the people we love forever?
If that's the case... should we even bother loving at all?

Carla gave an example of one of her Crazies that she hides from Turk. Sometimes, she cries when she starts thinking that there is no cat heaven. That to me is a completely different kind of crazy than Elliot, who is a general mess of a human. Carla's wierd ass reason for collapsing into tears does not define her as a person as much as, say, Elliot's issues with intimacy and herself.

If it's something that really shapes the actions in your past, present and future... shouldn't your lover, significant other, etc be made aware of them when the walls come down? So that they could understand, rather than retreat?

Will it always be seen as a change in person, rather than the not-so-simple exposing to the other side of the coin as it is? I mean, the things he liked about you from the start isn't necessarily gone. It's not a lie. It's just different. But it's always seen that way.

At the end of the episode, Elliot stomps up to her crush, kisses him, and pretty much demands that he asks her out. He does. He also makes a complete fool out of himself, proving to be just as much of a klutz as she is. Elliot's fears dissipate. Of course, this is TV. And of course, things will always fall into place. But a viewer really has to wonder, how much truth is really in these episodes? Are people like Elliot and myself destined to only be happy with motherfuckers as neurotic as we are?

Do we really have to be fake to keep the ones we actually want?